The car ride

Fourteen years ago, when episodes of “Veggie Tales”, sippy cups of apple juice, orchestrated naps, and jaunts to the park defined our days, I shook up the summer schedule and planned a visit to Grandma and Grandpa’s house. Back then, we only had Flicka and Ricka, and they were both in diapers, but Husband would join me on the trip this time, and the thought of the extra help eased the tension from my neck.

When my man returned home from work the day of our departure, we buckled the babies into their car seats and set out on the six-hour trek to northern Minnesota. But only three hours in, the girls started fussing.

“I think they’re getting tired of sitting,” I said.

Husband adjusted the radio and wrinkled his nose. “Smells like someone needs a new diaper.”

I glanced into the back and sniffed. “I think you’re right. Let’s stop soon.”

The car gobbled up the miles as we scanned the landscape for a rest stop. The stench increased, and the girls’ squawks became strident. I reached back to play with their toes, but when Ricka pumped her legs, I saw something dark seep from her diaper.

I gasped and turned to Husband. “You’ve gotta pull over right now.”

He shot me a look. “Why?”

“Apparently she’s not feeling well.” I described the scene.

He flipped on the blinker and swerved onto an exit for Fergus Falls. After surveying the options just off the ramp, he careened into the parking lot of a Walmart.  

As soon as Husband threw the vehicle into park, I bailed and yanked open the back door on Ricka’s side. He turned off the ignition, hopped out, and opened the other door to check on Flicka. I unclasped Ricka and lifted her out, holding her at arm’s length. Her car seat was a soupy mess.  

“Uh oh.” The sight triggered my gag reflex. “I’m gonna need some help.”

Husband peeked into Flicka’s diaper. “Whoa. Same thing here.” He unbuckled her, and his face contorted. “It’s bad.”

As he pulled her out, sickness poured from her diaper too.

Frantic, I darted a look around the car, taking inventory. An old bath towel, some wet wipes, a battered roll of paper towels shoved under a seat—a pittance when what we really needed was a bathtub. Or a garden hose.

“Where to start?” I looked from the car seats to the girls—and back again.

Husband bunched his lips to one side. “Let’s lay them on the ground and clean them up.”

“Okay.”

With Ricka in one arm, I tossed the diaper bag onto the pavement and then grabbed the towel and spread it on the parking lot’s asphalt. Only a few cars were parked nearby, so thankfully, we wouldn’t perform for a big audience. Daylight flirted with the encroaching darkness, though; dusk was upon us, so we would need to make quick work of the mess while we could still see.  

I set Ricka on the towel, and Husband planted Flicka next to her. The girls tried to squirm away. Then I noticed Husband’s shirt, smeared from the rescue effort, and I gagged again.

“Come on.” He cocked his head and skewered me with a look. “Pull it together.”

I coughed and bit my lip. “I’m trying.”

I flipped open the lid of wet wipes and jerked out a string of seven. Was that all we had left? I let out a bitter laugh; our battle appeared as fruitful as sopping up the sea with a Kleenex.

Husband lapsed into commander mode. “You go in and buy more wipes. I’ll try to keep these two from rolling around in it. Go.”

I nodded, jumping to my feet. Stumbling into the store, I forced myself to think about the Twinkies on display inside the front door instead of the hopeless filth I had just deserted. I took a deep breath, jogged to the baby department, scooped up a load of wipes and some hand sanitizer, and hurtled through the checkout line, tossing my debit card at the cashier.

In the dim light outside, Husband and I hurried to wipe down the girls. I rifled through their bags for clean clothes and new diapers in a race against time and muck.  

An older woman approached. Her face twisted into a smile, and she snorted. “Been there, done that,” she said as she clipped by us. I heard one more chuckle before she disappeared inside the store.

Husband and I looked at each other. He shook his head.

“Real nice, lady,” I muttered.

At last we climbed back into the car and chugged onward. The hours passed, the little ones slept, and the long miles smoothed away our parking lot trauma. And as soon as we arrived at our destination, I made a beeline for the laundry room. Husband accompanied me to lend a hand, and together—in the bag of yuck—we found what we had been missing earlier.

Wadded up in that ball of soiled laundry were our senses of humor, and we were happy to see them again.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Birdell and Bruce: Part 2

*Last week, Birdell’s name was spelled two different ways in various places online. This week, I have corrected the spelling to match what’s stated in her obituary.

Five days after Birdell Beeks was killed, Husband and I attended her vigil. We gathered with many others at the corner of 21st and Penn—the location of the woman’s death. One by one, residents of the neighborhood strode up to the microphone.

“They used to be throwing footballs,” one man said. “Now they’re throwing bullets, and you can’t take that back.”

“We’re going to put the ‘neighbor’ back in the ‘hood’,” said another man. The crowd cheered.

A marching band and dancers—all kids from the neighborhood—performed for us. The range of instruments reminded me of our music teacher Bruce Jackson, gone just the day before. He had played piano, guitar, mandolin, accordion, harmonica, banjo, and dobro, and they had all been his favorites—just like the Northside kids he had served.

We clasped hands with neighbors we hadn’t met before and formed a circle big enough to hold all our colors, ages, and backgrounds. Then more people wandered into our assembly and broke through the ring to grab onto our hands too, making us even stronger. And we prayed.

The recent shootings in our part of town—and Birdell Beeks’ and Bruce Jackson’s deaths—had blown up my positivity, blasting the bits—along with the shell casings—into the streets. But the vigil dispelled the dark cloud dangling over me.

Some days later, I heard a woman had been shot in the head as she sat in a beauty salon on Broadway. Then a guy on a north Minneapolis Facebook page wrote about a new incident: More gunshots… at least three. This neighborhood is a cocktail of awesome mixed with random terror. And on a different day, I learned four more people were injured when a fight erupted in gunfire.

The summer was shaping up to be the bloodiest we had known in all our years on the Northside. Would the violence ever end? Should we pack up our belongings and move away? My desire to raise our girls among diversity and poverty hadn’t changed, though, so I again preached the old three-part sermon to myself: We’re not too good for north Minneapolis; it’s okay to be uncomfortable; this life isn’t about us.

But one night, as gunshots rang out, my thoughts again tried to own me. Once more, I took the slimy things captive, wrangling them back into their box. And in those dark hours, I knew The Great Realtor who had chosen our home for us fourteen years earlier hadn’t made a mistake.  

A thousand may fall at your side, and ten thousand at your right hand; But it shall not come near you.

Was it true? Would we live in safety if we stayed? Had my self-preservation stomped out my trust in the One who had moved us there in the first place?

The next day, I received messages from several women who knew our Realtor too.

“I see His hand of protection lying over your family.” “He’s placed you there, and He’ll protect you.” “Although He may not ask you to stay, you don’t want to leave until He says so.” “You are loved, and you are covered.”

This time, I held onto the truth with everything in me. It didn’t matter how it appeared on the news or the way it sounded when explosions split the night air. We lived in the safest place in the world, and no human could make us go.

North Minneapolis peace activist (and friend) Kay G Wilson and me at Birdell Beeks' vigil.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Birdell and Bruce: Part 1

Last Thursday at 6:00 p.m., Birdell Beeks, grandma to the community, sat in her minivan at a stop sign at 21st and Penn in north Minneapolis, her granddaughter in the seat next to hers. But before she could step on the gas pedal again, violence exploded at the intersection.

“Baby, they got me,” Birdell said right before the stray bullet stopped her heart.

When the tragic news unfolded, I stewed under a dark cloud, thinking of the woman—cut down in the streets—who set extra places at the table for anybody at any time. And I thought of the one with the gun, so bent on bloodshed that he’d take anyone—even a grandmother.

We stood on the cusp of summer—not even June—and violence had already bubbled to the surface in north Minneapolis. Did the good in our part of the city outweigh the risks of living there? Or were we foolish to keep turning the calendar’s pages in that place?

The following day, a man from a local news outlet posted on a north Minneapolis Facebook page, asking if anyone would be willing to speak with him about why they continued to live on the Northside in spite of the incidents. Almost fifty people responded, and their reasons for calling the Northside home varied. I read through the comments, pondering my neighbors’ words.

Then I left the computer and strode into the kitchen. I poured two cups of coffee and handed one to Husband. We headed into the living room.

“Today, I’m forgetting.” I sat down and pointed at another chair, and he sat too. “Why are we staying here when we could go?”

Husband listed some reasons, and his words jarred my memory, bringing back the truth of the inner-city: the beauty that nestled within the sharp edges, the daily goodness that tamped down the evil, the peace that was louder than the gunshots. But discomfort squeezed me anyway.

I held my mug in both hands. “What would it take for us to leave?”  

“Maybe if the girls were afraid.” Husband took a sip of coffee.

“But they’re not. And leaving out of fear?” I shook my head. “That doesn’t feel right.”

We walked through our Memorial weekend, remembering those who had sacrificed their lives for freedom. And I again thought about those in our neighborhood who had given their lives to violence in one way or another too—either as promoters or as victims. And the cloud over me grew darker.

On Memorial Day, I heard the news that our neighbor, friend, and music teacher Bruce Jackson had passed away after a long fight with Mesothelioma.

Several years earlier, I had signed up Ricka and Dicka for piano lessons at our neighborhood’s Camden Music School. I had selected Bruce as their teacher. I hadn’t met him before I clicked on his name on the computer screen, but I had heard good things, and that was enough.

The first day of piano lessons, Bruce entered the building in a Hawaiian shirt and a straw Panama fedora. The corners of his mouth curved up under a bushy mustache, and his eyes sparkled with the promise of musical adventures.

Over many weeks, Bruce taught my girls to relax and feel the music. Dance off the page and go beyond the notes, he told them. I snickered to myself as I watched the girls—their previous learning-style rigid and their postures even more so—try to navigate improvisational waters. Bruce beamed at their efforts, tapped his foot, and played along on the mandolin. When Dicka voiced her interest in percussion, Bruce pulled out some drums, gave her a few pointers, and set her free.

The year before, I had relieved Flicka of her piano duties; the fussing during practice time at home had eaten away at my resolve. But now Bruce was in our life. Was there something else for my first-born?

“I’d like to play the autoharp,” Flicka announced one day.

“Cool,” I said. “I bet Grandma would loan us hers.”

I asked Bruce if he could teach Flicka to play the stringed instrument.

“Sure,” he said. “Have her come in.”

The autoharp had sustained some injuries from the kids’ and grandkids’ home concerts over the years, but I soon learned Bruce also repaired instruments. He tinkered the harp back into shape and taught Flicka the basics.

Eventually, though, sports burst into the girls’ lives and pushed away the music. We phased out lessons for a while, always intending to return to Bruce, even when the Camden Music School closed its doors for lack of funding. Bruce invited us to stay in his life and come to his home for piano and autoharp time, and I always meant to. But good intentions flit away sometimes.

I kept in touch with Bruce’s fiancée—and with the man himself—through Facebook. I learned that he struggled with cancer, having begun the battle six years before we met. And each day was growing harder for him.

Bruce’s passing on Memorial Day 2016 darkened the cloud that hung over my head. One more reason to stay on the Northside was gone.

But stormy clouds don’t last forever; into the dark moments of contemplation at last comes the light. And I would see my way again.

Remembering Birdell.

Remembering Bruce. (Photo by Kathy Tauer)

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Excitement

If I had a dime for every time we came home from Art-a-Whirl to a disaster, I’d have twenty cents by now.

The largest art crawl in the nation, Art-a-Whirl, exploded on the calendar each year in that delicious space between the school’s plant sale and the girls’ last day of classes. Artists in northeast Minneapolis invited the masses into their creative minds and studios for one weekend in May, and we always left the event glowing from their imaginative work. In 2011, though, the devastation of a tornado that had obliterated our neighborhood while we were away dampened our enthusiasm.

On Saturday night—just five days ago—after seven hours of gallivanting once again among creative geniuses, we returned home to flashing lights and emergency vehicles. And nothing quashes one’s day of artistic inspiration like numerous police cars, a fire truck, an ambulance, and a tow truck parked right outside one’s house.

After we stepped inside the back door, my mother-in-law—visiting for the weekend—greeted us. Then she delivered the evening’s full report.

“Lala killed a squirrel earlier tonight, and then just ten minutes ago, someone crashed into a parked car out front. It was so loud, we thought it was ours.”

“What on earth? Again?” I dropped my purse on the table and hurried to the front window.

Husband went outside to take a look, and after my mother-in-law told me about the dog’s hunting escapade, I ventured out too, the girls on my heels.

Two cars, fused together in a mangled union, sat on the grass by the sidewalk. Into the night sky twisted smoke from the wreckage.

“Oh no,” I said as I approached Husband, standing near a crowd of neighbors. “Do you think anyone died?”

“I don’t know. But it’s Rodney and Shayla’s car that got hit.” Husband nodded toward the couple a few feet away.

“You’ve got to be kidding me,” I said. A driver of a speeding car had blasted into the couple’s parked vehicle one night in March too. “Twice in two months. What are the chances?”

“Rodney said that just yesterday they got their insurance check from the last crash.”

Husband wandered off to talk with a police officer. I threaded my way over to the couple. Rodney stood shirtless in pajama pants, staring at the rumpled heap of metal. Shayla, by his side, bit a lip and shook her head.

“What a nightmare,” I said. “I’m so sorry.”

Rodney let out a laugh and raked a hand through his hair. “What’re you gonna do?”

Then I eyed Shayla; her shape had changed since the last time we had visited. “So, you had your baby?”

Her face softened. “Yeah, a boy. Wanna see him?”

“If it’s not a bad time.”

She pointed toward her front door. “Go ahead. The kids are in the living room with him right now.”

Unable to resist a fresh baby, I motioned to my girls, and they followed me into Rodney and Shayla’s house. The neighbor kids—now a big brother and sister—sat side by side on the couch, the newborn dozing in the boy’s arms.

“He’s beautiful.” I stroked the infant’s head as the kids told me about his name and birthday. Soon, the girls and I exited the tender scene to go home, once again cutting through the mayhem on the sidewalk.

Inside, Lala welcomed me, her tail beating the air. She plopped down on the floor and flipped onto her back, exposing her belly for a dose of affection.

“Now you, you naughty thing.” I crouched and scratched her chest. “You killed a squirrel tonight, huh?”

Still on her back, her tail swept the floor; the petting session turned her eyes to slits.

Husband came through the door. “The driver’s going to live. He has a broken leg, but that’s pretty much it.” He strode through the room. “So, where’s the dead squirrel, Mom?”

My mother-in-law pointed through the kitchen window to a spot in the back yard, and Husband pulled on a rubber glove and headed out. The dog scrambled to her feet and scuttled after him, but the closed door stopped her, and she parked on her haunches and whined.

A few minutes later, Husband came back inside. “It was just a baby. Maybe sick too, if Lala was able to catch it.”

I wrinkled my nose. “Ew.”

He patted the dog’s flanks. “She was just doing her job protecting the family.”

An hour later, Husband and I looked out the front window at the dwindling activity. The onlookers had dissipated, and the only vehicles left on the street were a police car and a tow truck. Two workers scraped the accident’s debris into a bin.

“Well, that was something.” I tugged the curtains shut, remembering the night’s events: the collision, the baby, the squirrel.

“Makes you wish you lived in the country, doesn’t it?” Husband shot me a half-smile and then locked the door’s deadbolt for the night.

I hid a grin. “There would be dead animals out there too.”

“Fewer crashes, though.”

I set our alarm system. “Where’s the excitement in that?”

He pointed at me. “I was thinking the same thing.”

Photo by Dicka.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Mrs. Fitzpatrick

Whenever someone dies, it rains.

Or at least that’s what I decided that day in 1974.

We lived in a big, green house in south Minneapolis—across the street from Seward Elementary School—back then, and Mrs. Fitzpatrick and her sister Inez lived next door.

To my preschool eye, our two neighbor ladies looked ancient. Mrs. Fitzpatrick wore smock tops, and half-moon eyeglasses hung from her neck on a jeweled lanyard. Her fingers dripped with splashy rings, and when she laughed in her gravelly voice, she flashed silver-capped teeth.

Mrs. Fitzpatrick was good to us kids and allowed us inside her house for visits. The place brimmed with musty knick-knacks and heirlooms, but I was drawn to one picture on her wall: a peacock—its splayed feathers done in shimmering threads—laid to rest on black velvet and framed in ornate gold.

Mrs. Fitzpatrick was the only adult I knew who smoked, and I thought the habit was otherworldly and matched her velvet art. She owned a beaded coin purse, made especially for her pack of cigarettes. And pedestal ashtrays stood at attention by the sofa and chairs in her living room like servants awaiting their lady’s orders.

On Halloween, Mrs. Fitzpatrick treated us kids as guests and not like front-stoop beggars in costume. With a flourish, she swept us into her home so we could choose the candy we wanted. And my older sister Coco counted the old woman as her friend.

While Mrs. Fitzpatrick watered her lawn one day, Coco modeled all her summer clothes for her in an impromptu fashion show. As my sister flounced outside in each new combination, the woman threw back her head and laughed. Some days, after Coco returned home from her school across the street, she went over to visit Mrs. Fitzpatrick, and the two of them chatted while they worked crossword puzzles on the porch.

Then one morning in 1974, a paramedic van with its lights flashing pulled up in front of Mrs. Fitzpatrick’s house. My two-year-old brother Fred and I scrambled up to our perches on the back of the brown couch and watched the activity through the picture window. Several men from the vehicle traipsed into our neighbors’ home, but the rain pelted the glass, obscuring our view. So Fred—wearing nothing but a diaper—scooted from his post, pulled on a coat, and stepped into Dad’s galoshes by the front door. Then he tromped outside in the thigh-high boots, and I followed him. We stood side by side in the rain in our front yard until the men emerged from the house, carrying out a body in a bag on a gurney.

Coco came home early from school that day. She had spotted the emergency vehicle when she was outside for recess, and she told her teacher she felt sick. Then Mom announced the sad news to us kids: Inez had found her sister in bed that morning. Mrs. Fitzpatrick had died in her sleep.

A year later, I watched the episode of Little House on the Prairie where the widow passed away, leaving behind her three children. The woman’s voice had been raspy—just like Mrs. Fitzpatrick’s—and rain poured down at her graveside funeral. I again thought of our neighbor’s showy accessories and generous candy dish, her smoke-staled furniture and Coco’s frequent visits. I recalled the scratch of the upholstery on the backs of my legs as I sat with Fred on the couch that last morning and the feel of the rain that greened the grass but washed away our friend next door.

Because back then, it always rained when someone died.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Sounds

In my tiny hometown, some people wedged air conditioners in the open windows of their homes in the summertime. As a kid, I saw those units as a sign of wealth, along with carpeting and wall murals. But in our little rambler, we only had fans. And I sang into those cooling machines and laughed at the quavering effect on my voice. They made me smile too on muggy Minnesota nights when I dreamed to the sound of those blades, beating behind bars.

If I snoozed away my teenage summer mornings, the sound of distant lawn mowers jostled me awake, reminding me of my chore. I had to cut our grass too before the afternoon, because my sisters and I had the grueling task of sunbathing—back when frying oneself in baby oil was a good idea. After my lawn mowing, we wriggled into our swimsuits, looped beach towels around our necks, grabbed the boom box, and sneaked out to the back yard where we committed our act of luxury. But the slam of a car door—that was Dad coming home for lunch. And we couldn’t let him see us being lazy in the back yard or we’d get more jobs added to our lists. Greasy and giggling, we scrambled back inside for cover. 

Some evenings back then—if the mosquitoes weren’t too ferocious—we sat on our front steps, sipping limeade. Our view was a gravel road, and beyond it, a field that stretched out forever—or at least as far as the place where sky kisses soil. Crickets chirped the soundtrack for those evenings, and fireflies igniged the ditches.

A decade and a half later, I traded the bucolic sounds of my youth for the jagged noise of inner-city living. Street fights in the night replaced the sound of purring fans, sirens trumped the buzzing of lawn mowers, and booming music choked out the crickets’ songs. But the commotion outside soothed my city babies to sleep. And Husband and I heard the pops of fireworks—or gunshots?—somewhere close, and the sounds lulled us to sleep too.

One Saturday night not long ago, I drove home from an event. As usual, I turned the car west at the exit and onto Dowling Avenue North. But what was up ahead? Inactivity on the streets snapped me to attention. I straightened my posture and glanced at the digital clock on the car’s dash. Midnight. I narrowed my eyes. The area was naked of violence and flashing lights. Why? I rolled down the driver’s side window to listen. Only the distant hum of freeway traffic floated into the car. As I drove deeper into north Minneapolis, I swiveled my head to scan each intersecting street. Something was awry.

Where were the police cars? And the sirens? Where was the normal activity—as common as jam on toast—of officers making arrests? Where was the yelling I had come to expect? Or the screeching tires that told me I was almost home?

That night in bed, I stared into the darkness. Like the whirring fans of my childhood, the clatter of unrest in our part of the city had become my white noise. I remembered two earlier conversations.

“A police car just went by,” an out-of-town guest had said, rushing to our living room window. “And it had its lights on.”

“Oh?” I shook my head. “I didn’t notice.”

On another occasion, a neighbor said, "That's the third time this week police helicopters have circled over our houses."

I shrugged. “I guess I didn’t hear them.”

Turmoil had become commonplace; dissension, humdrum. My senses had dulled, turning my gaze inward and blurring my motivation to serve the neighborhood. And one peaceful night on the streets felt wrong to me.

The next day, I let the dog out into the back yard. She sniffed the air, and I followed her outside to survey my garden. The usual sounds swirled around me: squeals from nearby tires, the bang of a dropping garbage can lid in the alley, and faraway sirens screaming toward crisis.

I breathed out a prayer for a fresh outlook, a renewed perspective—for ears to hear once more.

The bells from the church on the corner—louder than the neighborhood now—pealed out an old hymn, and I perched on a garden stool to listen. Memories of the song's lyrics wafted to me on spring winds, nudging me out of complacency and back to my purpose.

Faith of our fathers, we will love

Both friend and foe in all our strife,

And preach thee, too, as love knows how

By kindly words and virtuous life:

Faith of our fathers, holy faith,

We will be true to thee till death.

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Jamal: Part 2

I gripped the door handle; I could be faster than a four-year-old if I had to be.

A boom car zipped by us. The noise snatched the little boy’s attention from his task.  

I knocked on the window. “Hit the button again, Jamal.”

More clicks, but not the right ones. Let the next one be it. He pressed again. The knob popped up, unlocking the car. In a fraction of a second, I opened the door. Jamal abandoned the keys and scrambled into his booster seat in the back. He tugged at the seat belt. I pulled it into place and clasped it for him, and then we drove off.

The harrowing adventure had spanned five minutes, and the story had concluded with the best of all possible endings. I adjusted the rearview mirror and looked at my passenger.

He gazed out the window and then at me. “Can I have candy now?”

The last thing an active boy needed was sugar, but I had given my word. “You sure can.”

Each weekday morning, my girls helped me awaken Jamal for preschool. We dressed him, fed him, and walked him to the bus stop at the end of our block. His groggy start to the day turned more vibrant with each step. And before the bus arrived, he entertained us with his knock-knock jokes and dance moves.

One morning while we waited at the corner, Jamal danced his fastest for us. Then the bus pulled up with a hiss, and the door screeched open. His smile vanished.

“No, no, NO!” Jamal’s feet stuck to the pavement.

“C’mon, buddy.” I lifted him up to the bus steps. “You had a good time yesterday.”

“No!” He kicked one foot up on each side of the open bus door and locked his knees.

“It’ll be fun, Jamal,” I said, still holding him under his arms. “You’ll come back to me soon.”

He braced himself against the door. The girls and I coaxed him with ideas of all the fun he might have at school.

“I gotta go, ma’am,” said the bus driver. “Can’t wait any longer.”

I stepped back and set the little boy down. “Okay, Jamal. You can stay with me today.”

The driver closed the door and drove away. The girls’ eyes widened as we all walked back to the house.

Fresh awareness lit Ricka’s face. “You mean you can do that?”

“What?” I said.

“Refuse to go to school like that.” Flicka’s words were slow, thoughtful. A smile crept onto her face. “I didn’t know it was possible.”

I cocked my head. “Don’t even think about it, girls.”

“The dad’s home!” Jamal hollered to me one day as Husband pulled up in front of the house. The dad.

I straightened shoes by the door. “Maybe he’ll play basketball with you again.”

The boy buzzed out to Husband—emerging from his truck—and from the window, I watched him bob in front of my man, tugging on his arm. The two of them came inside the house, and minutes later, they headed to the back yard to play basketball. I stepped outside to snap some pictures of their game.

Jamal dribbled the ball, then zinged a look at his opponent and laughed. “I’m gonna beat the black outta you!” He stepped closer to the basket, squinted at his target, poked out his tongue, and shot. The ball swished through the net.

Husband chased after the boy, stole the ball, and pulled out his jab steps, pump fakes, and dribble drives. Soon, the kid’s moves slowed. “A tired puppy is a happy puppy,” I remembered our dog trainer Mimi saying.

Back in the house thirty minutes later, Jamal splayed out on the living room floor. Then he crawled over to where Husband sat, climbed into his lap, looped an arm around his neck, and tussled Husband’s naturally curly hair. “You’re a nappy head too.”

A smile played at the corners of my man’s mouth. “You think so?”

“Yeah.” He pressed his forehead into Husband’s. “Just like me, Dad.”

Thirteen days with us, and then Jamal was gone. The day he left, I chatted with the host mom who had taken in his five-year-old brother. I had gotten to know her during the little boys’ play dates.

“So how did it go?” she asked as she stood on my front porch.

I pictured Jamal, a busy boy—amped up even more by his nebulizer treatments. I remembered his shining face, peering at me through the car window; his obsession with yogurt and basketball; his affinity for our whole family—but especially for Husband. I recalled the smell of the Moroccan hair oil I’d rub on his head after his baths, how he slept hard and long after his active days, and how he relished eating chicken skin—dragged through ketchup—more than the chicken itself. I had learned an adult should never relinquish control of her keys to a four-year-old, and once in a while, everyone deserves a personal day away from the demands of life and preschool. I had also learned that this kind of hosting would leave its mark—deep grooves in our lives that would never heal—but we’d do it again anyway.

The look on the woman’s face mirrored what I felt. I drew a deep breath, and let it go. “It was good.”

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Jamal: Part 1

“We have an unfilled urgent need,” the placement coordinator said on the other end of the phone line. “If you’re willing, we could use you now.”

During the previous weeks, we had completed the paperwork, the background investigation, the home inspection, the interview with the social worker, and the online training to be a host family for Safe Families for Children. We were fresh and ready to go.

“Tell me about the situation,” I said.

“There are two little boys. A four-year-old and a five-year-old. Their mom’s fine with separating them. Choose one, and the other one will stay in a host family near you.”

“Hm.” I flipped between the options, but it didn’t matter; whomever I chose would be the right one. “We’ll take the four-year-old.”

The coordinator explained that the boys’ mother had assumed the job of raising her ten-year-old sister after their parents had died on the same day in two different parts of Chicago. She was staying in a shelter in Minneapolis with the kids and struggling to cut through the fog of her days. Her to-do list was daunting: secure housing, find a job, raise her sister and her two boys, grieve her losses. A respite from her active little guys might help, she had said.

The director of Safe Families for Children drove Jamal, the four-year-old, to us the next day. In our living room, he stuck to her side while she pointed out his luggage and taught me how to operate his nebulizer. My girls—ages 8, 11, and 12—edged closer to him. His eyes glinted with curiosity as he watched them.

Dicka touched his hand. “Do you like basketball?”

Jamal’s face split into a smile, and he nodded. Soon, he darted out the back door with her.

Before bed that night, I read to him while the girls clustered around us. Together, we followed the adventures of Little Bear, Curious George, and Frog and Toad.

A tear trickled down his face behind the nebulizer mask. “I miss my mama.”

“I know, hon.” I closed the book. “We’ll call her in the morning.” I snuggled his stuffed dinosaur next to his cheek.

The next day, Jamal perked up. He ripped around the house, switching to a new activity every two minutes. One of those activities was nosing around inside the fridge. I whisked him out, but not before he snapped up his second yogurt of the day.

“This is the last one, okay? You just had yogurt an hour ago.” I steered him into the dining room. “And sit at the table to eat, please.”

He spooned up the creamy treat. Then the girls burst through the door from school. Jamal begged them to play basketball with him. They dropped their backpacks in the middle of the floor and scampered outside. Minutes later, Ricka stuck her head inside the house.

“Jamal just threw up in the back yard, Mom. I think he had too much yogurt.”

“Oh boy.” I followed her outside.

An empty yogurt container sat on the patio table. Jamal dragged the back of his hand across his mouth and bolted back into the game.

“You threw up, Jamal?” I said.

“No.” He swiped the ball away from Dicka. “I just spit.”

“No more yogurt today.”

The little boy whooped as Flicka chased after him. “You can’t catch me, Jo-Jo!”

I smiled at the nickname and passed through the gate, interrupting their game. “Did you hear me, Jamal?”

“Yeah.” He shot the ball, then flicked his gaze at me. “Can I have another yogurt now?”

One afternoon, Jamal and I left the house to run some errands. I smiled down at my little shadow. He watched me lock the front door, his focus glued on my keyring.

“Can I do it?” He tugged on the hem of my jacket. “Can I try?”

I flicked a finger under his chin and chuckled. “I already locked the door, bud.”

“Can I open the car?” As we walked outside together, he danced a jig around me, his eyes shining. “Let me open the car. Please?”

I recalled the girls’ intrigue with keys and how they had years earlier begged to do the same thing. Where was the harm in a kid learning a little independence?

“Push this one.” I pointed to the unlock button on my key fob, and he snatched the keys out of my hand.

He unlocked the passenger side door of the car, scrambled inside, and yanked it shut. I jogged around to the driver’s side, but before I could reach the door, I heard the click of the automatic locks.

Uh oh.

I did some quick math and added up the facts: A four-year-old boy locked inside my car—with my keys. And me outside my car—with no keys.

Jamal got the giggles. I pasted on a smile.

“Hey, let me in.” I rapped on the window. “We’ll go get some candy—and more yogurt. Sound good?”

He pressed his lips against the glass and puffed his cheeks out. Then he laughed as if he had performed the funniest act in the world.

I slowed my breathing, the plastic smile still stretched across my face. “Jamal, open up, okay?”

After another second of amusement, he stared at the key fob and furrowed his brow. Then he looked up at me.

“See the picture of the little open lock on there? Push that one,” I said.

He poked at the fob, but the doors locked again. He shrugged and shook his head.

How could I expect a little boy to understand the symbol of an unlocked padlock? “It’s the other button. Try it again.”

He tapped the unlock button. Nothing. He probably hadn’t pushed it hard enough. Think.

Maybe Husband had left his extra set of keys at home today. But the kid had the house key too, and I couldn’t let him out of my sight long enough to find the spare key hidden in the back yard, go back inside our place, and search for the extra car key that may or may not be on its hook by the back door. An icy thought froze me: Jamal held the key that also drove the car, and if he had ever watched an adult put one into an ignition…

“Jamal, I have an idea.” I clapped to draw his attention away from the keys. He pushed his face up to the glass and peered at me. “I want some candy—you do too, right?—so listen carefully. See those buttons on the door? Push one of those, okay?”

Jamal jumped into the front seat and stabbed at a few knobs on the dash.

“No, here.” I pointed down at the door.

On his first attempt, he hit the lock button again. I poised my hand on the door handle. Maybe his next try would save the day.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Book review: Assault on Saint Agnes by Joseph Courtemanche

I first saw Joe Courtemanche in early 2014 in a class at a writers’ conference in Colorado Springs. I recognized him as an Operation First Novel contest finalist for his thriller, Assault on Saint Agnes. With Tennyson’s hairstyle and Longfellow’s beard, Joe already wore the look of an author. I had read he lived in Saint Paul, so after class, I threaded my way over to him and introduced myself as a fellow Minnesotan. Then he invited me to join his writers' group back home, promising good speakers and chocolate at every meeting.

Over the months, Joe talked about the travails of publishing, but as a man of faith and laser focus, he pounded the rocky path anyway. He shared his manuscript with many beta readers—his wife, patrons of Mickey’s Diner, homeless folks, and more. And he listened to them and polished his writing to a glossy sheen. By 2015, Assault on Saint Agnes won the Genesis Award, and by early 2016, Joe’s baby was published.

Joe had served as a former police officer and Middle East/North African analyst and Arabic linguist in the United States Navy. His expertise informed his writing, and I couldn’t wait to find out how. I snapped up my autographed copy at the March writers’ group meeting and hustled home.

“I’ll read to you,” I said to Husband. “Like I did back in the day when our love was new and the kids weren’t around.”

He settled into a chair. “Yeah, let’s go.”

The first chapter plunged us into Bobby Kurtz’s world, the air pungent with burnt gunpowder and the floor strewn with shattered glass in Saint Agnes Church in Saint Paul, Minnesota. Minutes earlier, a team of terrorists, including a suicide bomber, had rained down horror during Mass. But they hadn’t counted on Kurtz—in the right place at the right time—ruining their day.

After the attack, Kurtz is dragged away—as a suspect and not a hero—but is soon pulled back into his former life as a "spook" (intelligence operative) where he helps a shadowy government agency in its plans to crush terrorist cells bent on destroying the Twin Cities’ power grid. But will Kurtz and his team obliterate the evil before it destroys them all?

As the book progressed, I increased my reading speed, flipping the pages in a race against time along with Bobby Kurtz. Husband hollered out a “Nice!” here and there, and the mounting tension made me forget all about my cup of coffee. I waited until the end to rub the knots out of my neck and shoulders; the last time I had needed a massage after a book was when I read Andy Weir’s The Martian.

In this debut novel that hits the ground sprinting, Joe Courtemanche serves up snappy dialogue that helps take the edge off the layered crises, but the familiar Twin Cities locations and plausible details about Homeland Security and the military made me wonder if the author knows something the rest of us don’t.

Husband read my thoughts and chuckled. “Don’t worry. It’s just fiction.”

*Joseph Courtemanche's novel Assault on Saint Agnes launched on April 18, 2016. Get your copy from Amazon here today. (And listen to the audio sample, read by Joe.) 

*Follow Joe's blog, and watch for his future novels too: www.commotioninthepews.com

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

The truck

“Why don’t you take the Honda?” I said on Tuesday to Husband as he headed for the door. “You have a few kids to transport, so it makes sense. I only have to pick up Flicka at the train. I’ll take your truck.”

As soon as the words had left my mouth, regret settled in. Husband’s twenty-two-year-old pick-up—a battered Ford F150 with almost 300,000 miles on it—had given him some unwelcome surprises at inopportune times. Hopefully, its fickle attitude wouldn’t surface with me.

“Sounds good.” He strode from the house with Dicka and her friend who were dressed for boxing lessons.

After he left, my thoughts meandered from the pick-up to dinner. I had a plan for the meal, but lacked two ingredients. I would need to make a quick stop at the grocery store downtown before Flicka’s train arrived at the station.

I drove into the pristine and silent underground parking ramp of Whole Foods, the truck’s noisy steering pump announcing my entry. The grinding whine drew a look from a shopper who was making a beeline for the doors. Then the pick-up moaned even louder as I wedged it into a parking spot. I turned off the engine. A Lexus crept into the space next to me, and then a Prius tiptoed in on my other side. One of these kids is doing her own thing.

I entered the store, gathered my items, and waited in a checkout line. Flicka texted: I’m here. No problem. The station was close. I’d be there in under five minutes.

When it was my turn to pay, the cashier held his mouth in whistle position; his eyes twinkled as he scanned. He caressed my bag of parsley, a tender smile playing on his lips as he keyed numbers into the register. He spoke kind things about the corn starch I had quickly plucked off the shelf. And as for the crunchy pea snack I had tossed into my basket at the last second, he and I shared the same delight in the savory treat, he said.

The checkout had taken longer than expected, so I picked up my step on the way back to the truck. I climbed into the driver’s seat, stuck the key into the ignition, and turned. Nothing. Not even a glimmer of life.  

I texted Flicka: The truck’s dead and I’m stuck in the WF ramp. How about you walk this way?

I noticed the red mark on my phone’s battery app: 18%. Uh oh.

Flicka answered my text with a phone call. “Where is Whole Foods again in relation to the train?”

Worried about my dwindling battery, I gave her directions. She voiced her uncertainty about my whereabouts. “Start walking. I have to call Dad, and then I’ll walk to meet you.” I clicked the phone off and called Husband. But Dicka answered his phone.

“Dad’s in the meeting.” Ah, yes. Ricka's softball fundraising meeting. “Want me to get him?”

“Yeah, you better.” I explained the issue. She promised she’d relay the message and then hung up. A few minutes passed. I hopped out of the truck and started walking to meet Flicka. Finally, I spotted her a block away, heading toward me. My phone rang. Husband.

“Truck won’t start?” His voice was even.

“The battery’s dead or something.” I waved to my girl—now across the street from me—and she waved back.

“Okay. Open the hood.”

“I can’t. I’m out on the street meeting Flicka. But I’ll be back there in a minute.”

“You have to wiggle the wire on the left terminal on the battery. Then it’ll work.”

“Okay. Gotta go before my phone dies.” I punched the off button.

I recalled the times Husband had started his truck with a screwdriver and the occasions when he had needed to hit the starter with a hammer first. It all reminded me of driving through my college years in a Honda Accord that almost reached a half a million miles before its demise. I toted around a box of spark plugs in those days, and when needed, I could swap them out in minutes.

Back in the truck in the parking ramp, Flicka sat in the passenger seat while I searched for the latch to release the hood, illuminating the dark belly of the cab with my phone’s flashlight.

“I can’t for the life of me… Oh, there it is.” I pulled a lever. “Nope. That’s the brake release.”

She and I poked around under the dash, but came up empty. Her cell phone charge was lower than mine, so I used my own phone—its battery now registering 12%—to dial Husband. He answered before I heard it ring.

“Did you get it started?”

I groped around near the floor. “I can’t find the lever to open the hood.”

He guided me through the process. Once it popped, I ended the call and jumped out. I fiddled under the hood until the owner of the Prius returned, but I avoided eye contact; I could figure this out on my own. Or not. The driver backed out of his spot with as much sound as a fly rubbing its wings together on a summer day. Then his car whispered off and out of the ramp.

I wiggled the left cable on the battery—the right one too, for good measure—and hopped back in behind the wheel. The engine roared to life, and its shrieking had never sounded so sweet.

Dinner on Tuesday night was only a little later than I had planned. The vehicle issue hadn’t caused much stress for anyone. Neither Flicka nor I had lost charge on our cell phones, but if we had, we had been in the vicinity of other humans anyway. The weather had been pleasant; the walk toward my girl had been quick and painless. And Husband hadn’t minded missing five minutes of his meeting. In total, a bland time had been had by all.

Often in life, things happen and we move on, almost entirely forgetting about them by the next day—and certainly without garnering any lasting truths from them—because they were really no big deal in the first place. Not all vehicle mishaps are disasters, and not all stories have morals. But this event brought enough words to create a blog entry.

So that’s something.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Lala (our dog) and her day with my camera

I caught Lala with my camera the other day. She tried to nudge it under a blanket before I could snatch it away. But I won. I saved her pictures, though, and typed up the captions she dictated to me. I hope you enjoy them. Happy spring!

I hear someone outside, but Flicka and our friend are in my way.

I knew I heard balls!

I can't get out of the gate, so they brought them to me.

Dribble, dribble. (I do that too, but over my water bowl.)

Looks like Mom's growing something new for me to sniff. Oops! Dad's calling.

Now the girl's doing show-and-tell.

If I could get out of the yard, I'd chomp that thing.

Something's new in the alley. Mom's excited because it's green.

No more chips. But the bag's still tasty.

But my favorite thing of all? My BFF on the block, Frog. She came to say hi and made my day.

Daisy

“We have to call Animal Control,” I announced to my family at the dinner table one evening during the summer. “That poor dog barks day and night. I wonder if they give it any attention at all.”

The men from the rental duplex across the alley had confined their dog inside a makeshift shelter in their driveway. The animal had barked through most of June and into July. A plastic tarp draped the top of the structure, but on rainy nights, the incessant howling ripped me to pieces and left my nerves raw.

Flicka swallowed a bite of bread. “I just saw the dog out the other day for a minute before they put it back in. It’s gotten pretty skinny.” She glanced at me across the table and then did a double-take. “Mom, are you crying?”

I bit my lip and reached for a bowl. “We have more salad here.”

Husband eyed me. “Don’t call Animal Control yet.” He finished his last bite of meatloaf, tossed his napkin on the table, and stood. “I’m going to talk with them first.”

He left the house, but returned from his visit only five minutes later. “They’re trying to get rid of the dog, they said.”

“What does that mean?” I straightened from loading the dishwasher. “Starve it to death? Let the summer heat kill it?”

He shrugged. “That’s all they said. Let’s just wait and see what happens now.”

The dog didn’t bark anymore after that. And Husband’s visit with the neighbors signaled the end of the flashes of black fur I had seen between the slats of wood in the crude shelter. Although the people across the alley still had their pit bull Daisy—who had come to play with our Lala numerous times—I hadn’t seen much of her in the past couple of years. Maybe their days of dog ownership were over.

Then one day the next spring, I heard some shouting that drove me to the kitchen window. Our gate stood open, and two boys from across the alley tore around in our back yard, whooping at Daisy who was relieving herself near my flower beds.

I stuck my head out the back door. “Why is she in the yard?”

Barking, Lala shoved into the backs of my legs, desperate to join the mayhem outside. I blocked her exit; I didn’t have time to chaperone a doggy playdate today.

“She came in on her own,” one of the boys said. “And we can’t get her out again.”

I stepped outside. The boys pulled sticks from our fire pit and ran at Daisy, jabbing at the air and hollering. She dodged their every move, her tail whipping back and forth.

I clapped and put on my perkiest voice. “Daisy, come! Come here, girl!” She bounded toward me, her lips and ears flapping and her tail beating the air. In that moment, I caught the sparkle of life in her eyes: exuberance, innocence, mischief, longing. Just like the kids who owned her. I gave her a scratch behind the ears and patted her flanks. Then I herded her through the gate and into the alley. “Boys, go put her away now.”

They sprinted after their dog, and I headed inside. Minutes later, though, Daisy was back in our yard, exploring every inch. This time, she emptied her bowels, and I sighed. The boys reappeared, and even though their methods had failed the first time, they again waved their branches in the air and screamed.

I joined them outside. “Is your dad home?”

“Yeah.”

“Could you tell him to come over and get Daisy?”

One of the boys jogged back to his place. The other stayed in the yard and used his stick to joust with an imaginary opponent. Daisy pawed at the tender grass, kicking up dirt still damp from the latest rain. Soon, T.J., the boys’ dad, sauntered into our yard. He yelled at his dog; Daisy zoomed in the opposite direction. Then he picked up a stick and charged at her; she evaded him. When he zigged, she zagged. Finally, he and the two boys chased her out.

The next day, Husband and I picked up the girls from school. As we neared our house, we spied a dog, loose and nosing around on a lawn at the end of our block.

“Isn’t that Daisy?” Husband said.

“Yeah. Pull over.” I unclasped my seatbelt.

He stopped the car, and Dicka and I hopped out. With some coaxing and clapping, we lured the dog back to our place. The kids from across the alley shot hoops in our driveway, but when Daisy zipped through their game, they didn’t seem surprised to see her. Then T.J. emerged from his duplex. Was he going to retrieve his dog? Had he noticed she was missing? Instead of coming over, though, he stood on his back step and watched us.

I approached him while Daisy poked around nearby and sniffed at the garbage cans. “We found her a block away in someone’s yard.” I splayed a hand on my chest. “I’m glad she wasn’t hit by a car.”

“Shhh,” T.J. said, a cigarette dangling off his lip. He caught my hand and stroked it. “It’s okay. It’s okay.”

I withdrew it and with a half-smile, I shook my head and walked away.

That evening, I stared out the kitchen window. Our driveway was empty; only an abandoned basketball remained from the day’s games. And our yard was still; no more Daisy or boys with sticks.

“Maybe the next time we see Daisy wandering, we let her be,” Husband said over my shoulder, his voice low.

“Yeah, maybe.” I sighed.

“You can’t fix everything.”

“I know.”

He was right. But like Daisy’s tail, hope wagged anyway.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

The small things

“I’m taking the dog for a walk.” I clipped the leash on Lala. “Anyone want to join me?”

“I will.” Flicka stepped into her shoes by the door, and we set off together.

The first walk of spring always revealed what winter had tried to hide under its pristine covering. But now, after the melt, we witnessed the naked truth of inner-city living: old chip bags and candy wrappers speckled the sidewalks and four months of doggy-doo peppered the boulevard in front of that one house. Not dampened by our surroundings, though, we breathed in air that hinted at gardens and sandals, barbecues and bike rides. And as Lala trotted along between Flicka and me, her nose twitched; her world of smells was new again.

A couple of blocks from home, I spotted two young men standing up ahead on the corner. Soon, we would reach them, but since Lala was uneasy near strangers when on her leash, I planned to cut across the street before getting too close. One of the men motioned to me, though, and called out something I couldn’t decipher. I had been approached before on that corner; I hadn’t had spare change on me that day either.

“I didn’t catch that,” I said to him when we were closer. Lala’s fur stood in a ridge along her spine.

“Do you live on this block?” His gaze darted to something behind me, and urgency was etched in his expression. His friend shifted his feet, wearing the same anxious look.

“No.” I furrowed my brow. “Why?”

“There was a baby in the street back there.” He pointed behind us. “Maybe you could get him?”

I squinted in the direction he indicated and glimpsed the jerky steps of a toddler in a green coat across the street and a half a block away. The little one climbed onto the curb and wobbled to a standing position on the sidewalk. Just then, a van pulled up next to us. The passenger side window rolled down, revealing four women inside.

“There’s a baby outside alone back there.” The driver’s words came out choppy as she thumbed to the same location. “Did you see him?”

The men nodded.

“I’ll go,” I said.

The woman in the passenger seat jumped out, her mouth a straight line. She jogged across the street toward the spot where we had all spied the baby.

I waved to the two men. “You guys are the best.”

Then Flicka, Lala, and I took off too. But where was the little one now? We scanned the sidewalks and street. Nothing. He couldn’t have wandered too far. We caught up to the woman from the van.

“He was just here.” She scowled, putting her hands on her hips. “Now he’s gone.”

We scoured some nearby yards together. As the seconds ticked by, worry squeezed my chest.

“Over there.” The woman pointed to a house.

Inside the home—and standing at the picture window—was the baby in green. He pressed his forehead and palms against the glass and stared back at us.

I blew out a sigh, and concern fluttered away. “Thank goodness.”

The driver of the van circled around and picked up her friend. Then Flicka, Lala, and I walked home.

Each day holds small things we hardly notice. Cups of coffee and hot showers; dog walks and brushes with strangers. But in a slice of time and three blocks from home on our first walk of spring, our lives had intersected with the lives of six others, and in an instant, our priorities melded. The small thing that day wore a green coat and rattled the lives of eight people for two minutes on one block in north Minneapolis.

Maybe the small things aren’t always so small.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Self-control

*This blog installment ends the nine-week series on the fruit of the Spirit. To enjoy the posts again, visit here.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law.

Crash!

I jumped up from the dining room table where I had been enjoying a conversation with my visiting sister-in-law and ran to the living room window to make sense of what had happened on the street in front of our house. Husband flew outside to investigate, and I followed on his heels. I stood on the sidewalk in my bathrobe and bare feet at 10:20 p.m. on that Friday night and watched the offending vehicle squeal off, its engine revving. Husband sprinted after it all the way to the corner. The car lurched and sputtered, but even in its damaged state, it gained ground and hurtled away.

Dicka watched the shenanigans from the front steps. Husband jogged back and hollered to her. “Grab my phone for me, will you?”

She scurried into the house and out again, handing him the phone. He jumped into his pickup and sped off.

After I called 911 to report the incident, my sister-in-law and I assessed her van, sitting out front. No damage. Next, we checked the other parked cars. The one belonging to our neighbor had been smashed in the bumper, its rear tire now flat, and we later learned the impact had pushed it a car-length up the road. The collision had shattered glass everywhere and strewn large hunks of plastic and other pieces of car in the street—most of which belonged to the runaway vehicle.

Later, Husband told us about the pursuit. The car had maintained its speed even though it had lost a tire and its rim had turned sideways. He followed for a while, but lost sight of it. Then some onlookers pointed him in the right direction. He picked up the car’s trail again and followed the scratches it had carved into the asphalt. The grooves led him over some railroad tracks and back to a location eight blocks from our place. He spotted the guilty car parked in an alley driveway, guessing the driver had disappeared inside the home.

Husband parked nearby and waited for the police. Before they arrived, though, someone from the house emerged with a flashlight, assessed the battered vehicle, and swiped the light’s beam at Husband’s truck. Then the person scuttled back inside.

At last, the police came and gathered more details from Husband. They had received four 911 calls reporting the same hit-and-run, they said. Then they pounded on the door of the house. No answer. They called for a tow truck, and soon the rumpled vehicle was hauled away.

The next morning, Husband gathered up the mound of debris left on our street and tossed it into the bed of his pickup. He drove it to the same house from the night before and unloaded it in their driveway.

“They can throw it away themselves,” he later told me with a shrug. “We don’t have room in our trash can for all that.”

Maybe the hit-and-run driver had been under the influence when he crashed into the parked car. It wasn’t the only account that week of reckless drivers demolishing parked vehicles in our neighborhood; the north Minneapolis Facebook pages teemed with similar stories. I shook my head at the thought of restraint running amok and spraying glass and car bits around in the dark. And it reminded me of those who dove into altercations that spilled onto the streets, littering our neighborhood with jagged words and shards of anger. Then I recalled more occasions where I had witnessed a lack of discipline. I thought of parents who left their preschool children alone at the park to play and of those who threw tall kitchen bags stuffed with garbage out of their car windows as they drove. Why couldn’t people control themselves?

But then memories of my own actions that week pricked me.

Did I think I was better because my lack of restraint was quieter, disrupting fewer people? I hadn’t rammed my vehicle into a parked car, but a few days earlier I had gobbled up a stunning amount of tortilla chips in one sitting. I hadn’t stood in the middle of the street screaming obscenities at anyone, but I had coaxed Flicka to binge-watch episodes of The Office with me on a school night. I hadn’t deserted little ones at the park, but I had frittered away time decluttering the top drawer of the buffet when I should have been working. And while I hadn’t chucked my trash out on the road, I had spent more money than I needed to when I was out shopping.

“I had to use the Kohl’s Cash before it expired,” I explained to Husband even though he hadn’t asked. “And I saved 30% with that other coupon.”

He chuckled. “Or you could have saved 100% by not buying anything.”

Self-control: the ability to pull the reins back on oneself. Age doesn’t naturally bring it, and sometimes the young ones have it—like my sister Coco who, as a child, saved her holiday candy for months. Knowing my sweets were long gone, she hid hers in her underwear drawer and positioned some rubber spiders to stand sentinel, hoping to incite enough fear to keep me out of her stash.

Maybe we haven’t mastered self-control. Maybe we’re even wrecks with it, hoping to eventually dominate our weaknesses even though we’re nowhere near it yet. None of us has arrived, but with each new day, we all have another chance to practice.

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*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.

Gentleness

(Conclusion of last week’s installment, Faithfulness.)

She stared at her feet. The sun danced through the open door, and his shadow passed through it too and stopped in front of her. I’ve made such a mess. How could he come here? Then she felt a finger under her chin, raising it. He was too good for her house, her gaze, but she looked at him anyway.

His eyes—worn at the edges—smiled. “I’m here.”

She bit her lower lip; the reality of her surroundings stabbed her. Floor boards warped from storm waters, tiles shattered by abuse, and wallpaper beaten up by life—a far cry from the glorious architectural model he had created, sitting outside the front door. She tightened her muscles, bracing herself for the accusations.

Instead, he pointed to the kitchen. “May I?”

She nodded, and he bustled into the other room with his tool bag. A tool bag? She hiked an eyebrow and followed him.

He worked throughout the afternoon and evening, replacing the kitchen cabinetry and countertops, installing a marble sink and new faucet, tearing up the old tile and laying the new. Stunned by his precision and artistry, she observed his quick work. But it was soon too much. Exhausted, she dragged herself into the living room, sank down on the dusty sofa, and curled up in a ball.

She awoke to one small lamp glowing in the room. The darkness outside snuffed out the rest of the world. What time was it? Had she slept hours—or days? He appeared in front of her, holding a tray, the same smile from earlier playing in his eyes. “Eat. And then we’ll talk.”

He feeds me too. She devoured the delicate pastry crust, filled with savory vegetables and meat, and drank the juice that tasted like exotic fruits with honey. Had she ever been so hungry or thirsty? Finally satisfied, she dabbed her mouth with a napkin.

He settled into an armchair near her. And then we’ll talk. Her heart sank. Would the shredding words come now? After the kitchen renovation and delicious meal, would he slice her to pieces for all her sins? But then he spoke, his voice rich and musical, and explained his plans for her house. Only the best for his beloved, he said. Warmth filled her chest.

He stood and extended his hand to her. “Come. Let’s go for a walk.”

But the old fears slithered in again; things out there in the dark had snatched her away before. “I’d rather stay inside.”

“I’m here.” The soft eyes; the steady gaze. Love in flesh.

She put out both her hands, and he drew her to himself. Tears spilled from her eyes, and she didn’t know why. He thumbed them away.

“Okay. We can go now,” she said after a moment.

One night, she tossed and turned in bed. She thought of her old life and the marks it had left in her soul. Then Regret climbed onto the mattress next to her, and it was just as well; she had made her bed, hadn’t she?

The next morning, ragged from the sleepless hours, she held her cup of coffee in the sunroom and stared at a wall. But then he sat down next to her, and memories of Regret skittered away.

She set down her cup and grasped his hand. “Thank you.”

“I have something to show you.” He stood and led the way up the spiral staircase and into the ballroom on the second floor. She hadn’t visited that room in a while; her hips had begun to hurt too much for the climb, and she was satisfied living on the house’s first level anyway.

He escorted her to the east side of the room, which was covered with windows. The early sun flooded the space, drenching the parquet floor.

She looked through the glass and furrowed her brow. “But this is a different view.”

“Yes.” He ran his hand along the wood trim and then eyed her. “I washed the windows.”

A cluster of ladies walked at a brisk clip on the road beyond her driveway. And then a young man and woman ambled by, pushing a baby in a stroller.

She tucked a piece of her hair behind an ear. “Have they always passed by here?”

He nodded. “Always.”

“But I haven’t seen people out there before.” She stepped closer to the glass, squinting.

“You weren’t looking.”

But her eyes were open now.

Over the years, he mended the house, room by room. He breathed new life into the old and restored the broken pieces to wholeness. The neighbors noticed the change.

“Good work.” They smiled and congratulated her. “You’ve really pulled it together.”

She held up a hand. “No. It was all him.”

The years creased her face, but his beauty in her life was louder. Her joints grew achier, but his strength was enough for the two of them. They shared coffee in the mornings; they strolled together on the gravel road or in the garden in the evenings. She tried to recall her life before him, but her old self was too blurry to make out anymore, and so she released it for good.

One day, she received news from her doctor—the kind of news a person dreads throughout life and then hears at last.

She twisted a tissue in her hands. “How much time do I have?”

“It’s hard to say, really, since everyone’s different.” The doctor bunched her lips to one side. “Six months?”

“Oh,” she said, her chin wobbling. But as usual, he was sitting beside her, and so she turned to him. “You’ll help me, won’t you?”

His eyes smiled again. “I’m here.”

“What did you say?” the doctor said, cocking her head.

“Nothing.” She stood, looping her purse on her arm. “Thank you.”

While illness gnawed away at her life over the following months, the house became more beautiful. In his gentleness, he worked at it, because as long as she drew breath, he had a plan.

“This is hard,” she said one day on their walk. She plodded along. Everything hurt now, but if she stopped moving, she worried she might never move again. “And I’m scared.”

“I know.” He curved his arm around her, pulling her snug to his side. She heard his heartbeat.

“Don’t leave me.”

But his eyes still smiled. “I’m here.”

She squeezed him back as much as she could. “I love you too.”

*Miss an installment of the blog? Or want to catch the story from the beginning? Visit http://www.tamarajorell.com/blog-entries-by-date

*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.